I was talking to my son about what attracted me to his father, my husband. He wanted to know what was it that attracted me to his dad. I sat and thought about it for a moment and the one thing that automatically came to mind…"He was different."
As I said many times before, I dated the bad guy and the guy I thought I could change. It just didn't work out. Sometimes I think that we, as women, don't know what we want in a man and especially out of a relationship. We have all of these preconceived notions about what a man should be like or what a relationship should be. We get most of our information from the television shows we watch. We see the steamy love scenes, how relationships are formed, the drama and we think that this is how relationships are. We see the woman with the bad guy and how their relationship seems hot and explosive, but we fail to realize that it's more to a relationship than being hot and passionate.
I have seen women in the church choose relationships like a blind woman choosing an outfit in a department store. They have no idea what it looks like or how it looks on them. The only thing they have to go by is the way it feels and how it smells. Sometimes women in the church fall into this category when selecting who they will be in a relationship with – the man makes them feel good and his smell can be enticing. The following is a list of warning signs that will give you things to look out for:
- Unable to keep employment
- Plays the blame game
- Never accepts responsibility
- Poor family relationships
- He needs to control
- When words hurt
- Uproots support systems
- Quietly retreats
- Keeps background a secret
- Reminds you of your past
- Pseudo Christian
To find out more details about each warning signs listed above, look for my upcoming tele-course launching in October.
Talk to me:
- Do you recognize any of the warning signs above?
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Have you intentionally overlooked any warning signs?
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