Before the children came I was a vibrant, energetic and sexy woman. After the children arrived I was less vibrant, a little less energetic and so far removed from sexy! As I stated in one of my previous blogs post "Getting Back to Sexy" it is easy to lose sight of the woman inside after having children.
Let me just say that I love my children dearly and could not imagine my life without them. They bring a joy to my life that I cannot put into words. So, when I say my life was different before they arrived does not mean that I wish my life without them.
My life was carefree and I did what I wanted whenever I wanted to before the children came. Even after marrying my husband – with no children- we did things like, get up early and go to breakfast. We didn't have to get anyone else ready but ourselves.
After having children my energy left and I didn't have the big smile my husband so loved when he arrived home from work. All I could muster up was a "hey" as he walked through the door. Still in my lounging clothes and hair tied up. Who has time to dress, do hair and put on make-up when you have three children 13, 9 & 4 that are home all day because you homeschool! I understand how easy it is to get lost in a daily routine. Below are some things that might help you organize your day and put some pep in your step.
Set time limits – This is something that I had to learn the hard way. I am an overachiever and it is easy to get caught up in what I am doing and overdo it. Set a time limit for each thing that you are doing. After the time is up – leave it alone until the next day.
Get plenty of rest – I know for mothers and wives this is sometimes easier said than done, but it can be done. I have recently made the commitment to get as much rest as possible. I arrange my day so that towards the end of the day my children and I have whine down time. This helps us come down and get our bodies ready for a good night sleep. Once the children are in bed, I spend some time with hubby and then it is off to bed for the night.
Take time for you – I can't stress this enough! I know I say it a lot, but it is so important. I find that when I take time away from my busy family to do things for myself I come back calm, relaxed and ready to conquer whatever is waiting for me at home.
Incorporate the help of children and husband – this is something I learned the hard way. I always thought that being a good wife meant that I had to be able to juggle everything. I started getting my children involved with the cooking and cleaning of the house. They were so eager to help and it took a load off of me. It also started teaching them responsibility.
Hope these tips helps activate and build the woman in you!
