One thing I have learned, after having children it is hard to get back to sexy. I laugh when I look back at all the time I wasted not feeling sexy. This may not be an issue for you, but I know after having three children, being married for 14 years, gaining weight and being a stay-at-home mom getting back to sexy was an added responsibility.
This responsibility became more of a burden every day. As I worked to keep my husband happy, children pleased and maintain the house, sexy was just not on the top of my list of task. I fell into a rut and the deeper I was in it the harder it was to get out. I became comfortable with my oversized clothes, jogging outfits, flats, and moo moo's. This was definitely not who I was before I got married and not what attracted my husband to me. Can you imagine the things that were going through his head as I slowly slipped into his mother?
Just let me say, I love my mother-in-law and have nothing against her style of dress, but I'm sure my husband didn't want to lie next to a replica of his mother at night. He wanted that woman that turned him on when we were dating and the woman that continued after we said "I do" – you know, before the children.
Here are some things you can do to slowly get back to sexy:
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Get rid of the moo moo's – I laugh at this because these were the very words my husband said to me as I showed him what his mom had given me. I thought they were nice, big and comfortable. This is what I looked for when lounged around the house after a long day. Oversized clothing does not necessarily mean comfort. You can find clothing that fit nicely, compliment your curves and still maintain comfort.
- Pamper Yourself – When we become wives and mothers we often put our needs or wants on the back burner. We spend our time taking care of others and neglect ourselves. Take time to get your hair done, get a manicure and pedicure. Doing these things can make you feel good and look good.
Getting back to sexy will take some time, but with time and effort you will be Back to Sexy in no time!
